Let go.

Letting go is an adult game. Toddlers can't play it.

For the toddler, it's a matter of life or death. Even or especially if it's a story it's telling itself.

And the toddler part of ourselves is no different. It attaches itself to outcomes it has little agency over, throwing tantrums and making a ruckus to try and make the world bend to its whims and fancies.

Sometimes it works. But no one ends up happy that the toddler got its way. Including the toddler.

The alternative is to listen to the adult part within us. The one who is willing to walk away from the game which no longer serves them. The one who can find or create other games to play. The one who can see the way things are and allow others to have agency over their decisions.

Is it easy? Oh, not at all! But it's a choice we can make.

Do we want to show up in the world as a toddler or as a compassionate adult?

Here's how Rosamund Stone Zander explains the game of "Let go" in The Pathways to Possibility...

"So here’s the game: resist, and let go. Hold on to an opinion passionately, and then drop it. Be obsessive about figuring something out, and then let it go. Be righteously indignant and then release the whole thing. Letting go is an interior action, but an action nonetheless. The action feels like a release, followed by an infusion of pleasure and peace."