Effective or efficient?

Do you focus on the change you are seeking to make and on the things you need to ship to make that change? Or on how efficiently you are using the time you have available? The latter does not lead to the former. And we can burn ourselves out trying

Complex emotions.

Sometimes we feel joy, followed by embarrassment, and maybe sadness too. On other days, it's fear, anxiety and guilt getting entangled with each other. Emotions rarely show up alone as we grow up. If we learn to segregate them, we might be able to dance with them. The

Unblocking.

If a water pipe is blocked, you don't keep staring at it and hope it will unblock itself. You would need to do something about it. Maybe you do it yourself or you call a professional. But, there needs to be some movement. The same is true with

The other side.

As creatives and independent professionals, we learn again and again about trusting the process and not worrying about the outcome. Still, the voice of fear keeps us fixated on the outcome. It demands certainty, the certainty that any effort we put will not go waste, the certainty that we are

Action causes change.

Not planning, not discussions, not thoughts or feelings, but action. They may help us in taking action, but without action there's no change. What does action look like in your project? What can help you move forward? What's stopping you from taking action?

If I have to write...

If I "have to" do it, I’d do it this way. If we do not give ourselves a choice for “later”, we might be able to let go of perfectionism, and make do with what we have. When “later” comes into the picture, perfectionism can wreak havoc.

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The bully (inside our heads).

When something goes awry, it goes, “See. This proves it. You are no good.” When something goes well, it goes, “let’s focus on the next thing. that’s in the past” or "that’s by chance" or "they are just being polite". The thing with

Creativity and productivity.

If you want to be productive, put yourself in a familiar environment, one where you have been productive in the past. On the other hand, if you want to be creative, put yourself in a new space, one you are not familiar with, one where new ideas can take birth.

Anxiety or guilt?

Anxiety and fear show up when we show up. Otherwise guilt and regret show up. We can choose.

Interesting problems.

Interesting problems are ambiguous, complex and seem unsolvable, much like how a Rubik's Cube appears to a beginner. But every action we take gives us feedback and helps us understand something we didn't know yet. Sometimes because it worked, but most times because it didn'

Where do you want to go?

What will take you there? What is distracting you from reaching there? It’s not going to happen on its own. It is an uphill battle to some extent. Especially, not going into the downhill indulgences. There is no end to them. There is always the next episode, the next

Unnecessary emotional labour.

Our important work requires us to do emotional labour. To show up, to make a change, to create tension, to make things better. But, there are other spaces in our life that lead us to do emotional labour without any returns. Bad traffic, an argument that was not needed, news

What will I tell my boss?

If we focus too much on what we will tell our boss, we tend to get distracted from what our real work is. Our real work is to help the users, the clients, the customers. And we are in a much closer proximity to the user than the boss. Instead

Choosing not to play.

There are games that are designed to manipulate your mind... credit card rewards. airlines frequent flyer miles. starbucks card. etc. Obviously, there are some advantages in the short run of playing these games, for instance, the free coffee that Starbucks gives when you reach a certain level. But these games

The time resistance takes.

It doesn’t make the work better. It doesn’t make the recipient grateful. It simply delays everything. Resistance plays the later game. It convinces us somehow that later would be better. But there is no reason why it would be. Better comes from practice and practice happens when we

What does it look like when you ship your work?

Is it a message that needs to be sent, a call that needs to be made, an article that needs to be published, or a letter that needs to be posted? A ship exists to go from one port to another. There is no shipping unless something leaves this port

Who will miss you... if you don’t show up?

...and where would you show up even if no one missed you?

@everyone.

That's what we wish we could do. Only if we could send our message across to everyone. That's the promise that almost every platform alludes to: post it here and then everyone will read it or watch it or like it. But it doesn't

The repetitive, intrusive, self-doubt...

...which makes us doubt our identity unnecessarily. ...which makes us need validation, not once, but again and again. ...which makes everything worse, again and again. It won't go away on its own. But its power can be significantly reduced through community and practice, by surrounding ourselves with peers

The allure of waiting.

Waiting for things to get better, waiting for the phone to ring, waiting for someone to show up and magically solve the problems. If we are choosing to wait, we should be clear about what exactly are we waiting for and why waiting is a better option than acting now.

A chocolate shared...

...is worth much more than one eaten alone. And, it takes initiative to buy one and share it with someone. We all have the capability of making things better, sometimes by making better things, and sometimes by doing small things that make everything better. We get to do it. We

Are you paying attention?

Attention is a currency. It's a currency that determines where our other currency go: time, energy, and of course, money. There is opportunity cost related to where we spend our attention. We can choose to be intentional with it.

Newton's first law.

Newton's first law states that every object will remain at rest or in uniform motion in a straight line unless compelled to change its state by the action of an external force. This tendency to resist changes in a state of motion is inertia. Change requires an external

Finding your centre.

It won't happen by thinking. It won't happen with analysis. It won't happen by seeking advice. It happens when we act. Not big audacious actions, but small micro action steps in the right direction. It happens when we put ourselves in the uncomfortable position