Finding neutral.
When we get rejected, or when something unfortunate happens that we don't seem to have control over, or when things don't go the way we intended them to, then, the natural tendency we have is to react to the situation and to try and take action that would make up for what we lost.
But, this is not where our best-self acts from. This mind space is more impulsive, emotional and like a child. And it shows up with urgency and a lot of taking ourselves too seriously.
Instead, we can choose to respond, and that includes finding our neutral first, finding a space where we can observe without judgement "the way things are" and then determine what needs to happen to make them better.
The less we "react" and the more we "respond" to how things show up in our life, the better our life becomes.