Being a contribution...
When our focus is on the "me", then our child parts get activated, the parts that are insecure and afraid and for whom no amount of attention, love and care seems to be enough.
Alternately, when we strive to be a contribution, the focus shift away from the "me" and we are able to contribute to the "we" story. We are able to engage with possibility and generosity and create connection.
And when we do this, we access a secure self which experiences an abundance of attention, love and care.