The antidote to perfectionism. Perfectionism is laziness, the laziness coming from our desire to create only one draft, the perfect one. And this desire comes from the fact that as consumers we only see the final iteration. We see the movie only after it's released in the theatre, we buy the phone
Getting out of our own way. There may be other obstacles between you and your goals, the life you want to live. But the greatest obstacle is us, ourselves. The fear, attachment, emotion associated with doing the work that can make our lives better. The key is to work as a professional, doing things because they
The best version of you. There are days when you are at your best self and there are days when you are not. And that's okay. That's human. The important thing here is to take the strategic decisions for your life and work when you are your best self. And not
Scars “Martin Sheen turned to me and said, “Do you know what Saint Peter says to everyone who tries to get into heaven?” When I looked blankly, the man who once was president said, “Peter says, ‘Don’t you have any scars?’ And when most would respond proudly, ‘Well no, no
Pick one goal. More often than not, we strive to achieve multiple ambitious goals, especially when we sit down to write our new year's resolutions. While all the goals might be virtuous and helpful, this approach also puts us off the hook because we do not have one clear goal that
"Where you are" or "where you want to go"? We tend to strategise about our goals from the place where we are currently. We look at the current circumstances and see what's possible and what's not. But a different lens, a different framework may be useful while setting our goals and that is to figure
Striving to feel stretched. When we take action to lead, to bring about change, we might end up not feeling good, we would feel the resistance, we would feel like an imposter. These feelings want us to stop taking action. On the contrary, when we stop creating change, when we do what everyone expects
The edge of the box. We all live in a box, the box of our awareness, our knowledge, our certainty. It's the people we know, the books we have read, the places we have visited. Our perceived reality is within this box. And then there's the outside of the box, the
Everything is impossible until it's done. Everything worth doing, at least. The industrial era created a culture based on seeking certainty rather than exploring possibility. It created fear and scarcity as tools to increase compliance and it created an ecosystem which made it a norm to hide. But now, the hollowness of the system based on
Slippery slope. The walk away from creativity and professionalism is a slippery slope. The rational mind distracts us from the work and takes us towards the temptation of the displacement activities. It starts with a harmless seaming action, but keeps gaining momentum with each subsequent iteration. Taken alone, none of these iterations
Doing the hard part first. The hard part is customer traction. It starts with choosing the people who would benefit from what you are offering and building your presence in the community to earn trust and permission. It's tempting to focus on frills like making a fancy website or setting up automated funnels
The beginner's mindset. The beginner's mindset begets curiosity. It enables learning. It weakens the symptoms of the imposter syndrome. It says, "I am not an expert, I am trying to learn. I am merely doing a job. " The expert mindset takes us towards the other extreme. It creates pseudo-confidence.
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Slow change. Just like a child feels afraid on his first day of school, we don't want to leave the predictable certainty of the status quo. It's just that we are not given an option as a child. One thing we can do to help is to make
Deactivating the amygdala. When we try to work on something new, something audacious, something that will change the status quo, the amygdala gets activated. An activated amygdala creates doubt, it wants us to play safe. It wants us to get our ducks in order before we go out and make the change inevitable.
Empathy is hard. And empathy is what the work is all about. What does the person you seek to serve believes that you don't believe? What do they care about that you don't care about? What do they want that you don't want? What do they see
Treat projects like milk. Starting a project is relatively easier than getting it to the other end. And starting a new one before we ship the one in progress is tempting. It's all okay as long as we are clear about what's in progress and what needs to be shipped,
Promises to keep. As professionals, we make and keep promises. To our customers. And to ourselves. That's what this is about.
What does it look like when it works? Before we begin any project, it is helpful to see what it would look like when it works and also, when it doesn't. If you are preparing for a marathon, would you be happy if you complete the marathon or only if you win the marathon? In any
Action first, permission later. What actions can take things forward, change our identity, and make things better? It’s tempting to wait for permission, wait for instructions, wait to be selected. But the more we select ourselves, the more we act without waiting for permission, the more we will see ourselves getting selected to
The deal(s) with the devil. I don’t need to work on myself. Things are good/decent as they are. I have enough on my plate already. I can’t afford to invest in myself. I need someone to give me instructions or permission. I can't manage myself. I am not creative enough.
Embracing the finishing mindset. Done is better than good. - Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic The planning mindset is addictive. It is a devious trap of procrastination because it gives the illusion of progress without anything happening. It's motion without action. Planning and preparation can help but not in the prime time, not
Books a solopreneur must read. This is Marketing by Seth Godin: Learn how to market with empathy and connection by earning permission from the people you seek to serve. The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: Understand how self-doubt & procrastination and other self-sabotage forces stop you and learn how you can overcome these forces
Organise it yourself. There are many things in life that we want, that we would like to have. There are changes we want to see in the world, communities that we would like to be a part of. But if we wait for someone else to initiate, someone else to do the hard
Trusting our selves. The search for certainty and guarantee in our work comes from our lack of trust in ourselves that we will figure things out when we get there. Most times, we want to be sure of the outcome before we even get started. Until then, we are okay with delaying the